Budlelwane ka-ukoyika - apho uloyiko budlelwane nabanye

Ndiyabulela kuba honouring kum nge ixesha lakho

Budlelwane anxiety kuthetha ukuba, njengoko ilizwi icebisa, uloyiko budlelwane nabanye kwaye ubukhulu becala kwi-phambili vala kwaye lasting budlelwane nabanye

Ngamanye amaxesha budlelwane ka-ukoyika ngu obvious, Ezichaphazelekayo umntu uza kuba ukuba neentloni okanye hayi nkqu aphele budlelwane.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ubudlelane ukoyika ifihlakele ngasemva iingxelo ezifana akunyanzelekanga ukuba kufuneka nabani na ukuze ndonwabe okanye umphefumlo Wam mate nje hasn ukuba iboniswe phezulu kodwa, okanye Eyona ingaba sele sithathwe. Nguye associating kunye aphele budlelwane, umzekelo, uxanduva olukhulu, renunciation, realization ka-iminqweno yakhe kwaye ifuna, isiphelo inkululeko, ukukhanya-heartedness, injury, kwaye zimvo lomgaqo-guilt. Kutheni kuba Abachaphazelekayo, kwi budlelwane, umahluko phakathi kwezinto ezininzi kwabanye abantu njengoko Umngcipheko imboniselo, rhoqo sele yayo iingcambu kwi-lwabantwana abancinane okanye nkqu mens amava Neqabane.

Wokuqala amava kwi-qhagamshelana ne-abazali okanye enye imbekiselo abantu omnye learns kwi-lwabantwana abancinane.

Ngoko ke, umzekelo, umlinganiselo sinokukhokelela ukuba isiphelo okanye stun, thabatha attitude umntwana malunga Fears kwi abantu. Kanjalo engalunganga umtshato kwabazali babo, ulote yaba balwe, okanye ilahleko ngumzali ngokusebenzisa okunokukhethwa kuko sinokukhokelela a budlelwane ka-uloyiko kwaye vala budlelwane nabanye kusenokuba avoided. I-Motto: Ngcono akukho budlelwane kunokuba intlungu ukwaliwa okanye ilahleko ye-iqabane lakho. Ngubani koyika ka-budlelwane nabanye, izakuzama yonke into, khululeka akukho koyika. Widespread, kodwa ikakhulu ezingafanelekanga izicwangciso-ngokuchasene anxiety ingaba avoidance, umzekelo, kwaye yokuphepha.

Ezinye a Gefühlig kwabanye abantu, kodwa qala ukuva bonke ngakumbi uncomfortable, kukufutshane budlelwane.

kuba ngaba Iqabane lakho lona ingakumbi hurtful, ngenxa yokuba lo uziva ngathi usasebenzisa ngenxa sudden tshintsha kwi-kwenkqubo kwenzakalisa kwaye okunokukhethwa kuko phambi kokuba intloko ngu idibene. Nabani na olilungu kwembandezelo ukusuka budlelwane anxiety, partnerships soloko efanayo amava. Kubalulekile kuphela xa yena uba ngobukho bakhe ezinobungozi iipateni ka-nokuziphatha consciously, uxanduva Ukusilela kwayo partnerships kuthatha ngaphezulu, unako ukufunda yedwa okanye ngoncedo a therapist woloyiso budlelwane anxiety. Ubudlelwane anxiety Uvavanyo uya kubonisa ukuba ngaba ufuna belong abantu, avoiding unconsciously aphele lwahlulelwano, ngenxa yokuba ayoyika N lowo. Mna yiba soloko kokuba i-vula indlebe kuba Yethutyana abanye abantu.

Ke ngoko, intliziyo yam yaba banqwenela ukwenza umsebenzi njenge psychotherapist.

Oko ngakumbi umnqweno kukuba abantu fumana zabo nako ukumelana ngcono kunye nabo nabanye ukufumana enye ufumana uku khuthazwa. Ukulingana yam elinolwazi umsebenzi, ndifumana ngentsasa Meditation, Nordic Ehamba, Jin Shin Jyutsu kwaye baking ka-okumnandi cakes. Molo, ndiya kuba emva kweminyaka umfazi wam. Ndithe nje kuphela isebenza, kwaye sino nto Ngokufanayo, ngaphandle kokuba ezimbini emangalisayo abantwana ukuba siyamthanda. Ngoku, emva kweenyanga ezintathu, siyaqonda ukuba kuthi kwaye kwenzeka ngokumayela kwethu. Ndandidibana umfazi, mna ukufumana zonke zeli kwaye ukuva oko ndaba uphose eminyaka. Ngoku yena ke, besoyika ukuba kuphuma kwi budlelwane, okanye ukuvula Ngokwayo kum.

Ingxaki lies abayo kwixesha elidlulileyo.

Yena ingu watshata, kwi-iphepha kuphela. Wayengomnye sukuyihoya nge umyeni. Ke yena kuhlangatyezwana nazo umntu, wawa ngothando kunye naye, kodwa emva elifutshane waya emva yakhe nomfazi kunye nomntwana. Ngoku, thina bafunda kwaye bazi kwaye besoyika ukuba amava enye kwakhona. Ndiza kuvuma wam uthando kwaye Affection. Ndicinga ingaba ufuna kidding. Ngoku, yena ubhala, emva kokuba ndithethe wabuza kangakanani imizwa yakho ingaba kum. Yena usebenza kuyo. Le yindlela eqhelekileyo. Boyfriend yam waphula phezulu emva kwiiveki ezimbalwa kum. Ndiyazi ukuba kokuba aliqela eminyaka akukho zimvo kuba umfazi kwaye ke wathabatha kuye kakhulu ixesha elide ukuba sivumo kum nemvakalelo yakhe.

Ukususela yokuphepha-njenge okunokukhethwa kuko iintsuku kuba ophunyezwe.

Ndiza scared ukuba zange kuva ukusuka kubo kwakhona. Imiyalezo ukusuka kwam ndiya kuba sukuyihoya. Ngaphambili, yonke into ngokulungileyo, sinalo na quarreled, kwaye babebaninzi kakhulu ngothando.

Oku kanjalo imbono yam Umcebisi

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufuna kuye nervous, kodwa kanjalo kwaye ukubhala kwakhona - watshabalalisa wam mna-ukukholosa. Ndiyathemba yena realizes ngayo kanti: (ndine wachitha a emangalisayo lwabantwana abancinane. Akukho okunokukhethwa kuko zabazali, akukho udushe, akukho ngxaki. Mna wayengayi kukwazi ukuba baphile ngayo emva. Kodwa mna sinokukhokelela wam ubomi, akukho budlelwane. Nanini na xa ndiya kuhlangana umntu, mna ke idla sele ngomhla wokuqala Kuhlangana kunzima ukusebenza ngokupheleleyo 'annoyed' kwaye zama ukugqiba kwabo njengoko kamsinya kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba ixesha kaninzi kwe-phinde ngosuku umyalezo isiza, mna ukulifumana annoying kwaye clingy. -Ndingathanda ukuchitha ixesha, umntu ukuba ndine ngakumbi ixesha. Molo, ndibona ezininzi similarities ukuba ukuziphatha wam umhlobo. Ndiya kusoloko bazive lowo ugcina kum ngexesha umgama. Sino wethu elifutshane budlelwane kakhulu sele lento ngoko ke, ukuze abe sele bemkile unako kwi kum. Kodwa ke unako kuba sterilised nkqu nokuba ndine banqwenela ukuba ingaba abantwana wakhe, ukuziphatha ke lohlobo. Lenza kum ngoko ke ezibuhlungu: (ndinako uncedo kuye. Ndenza njani siphendule eyona. Kutshanje, ndicinga malunga nokuba ndithe fears ka-Budlelwane. Ndaba akukho uthando budlelwane, vala abahlobo apho nam kuba phantse iminyaka. Ukuthamba ingaba yenza ingxenye yesakhelo kum uncomfortable, akukho mcimbi abo zivela. Mna ngoko nangoko bazive uncomfortable kwaye andazi njani ndimele react. Nabanye abantu kuphela ukuba usebenzise ichukumisa kum i-uphambene ebelilindelwe ka-ukoyika. Yintoni ukuba mna andinaku bamba kwenkundla ngomhla phezulu. Okungalunganga nto kukuba ndithanda nto nomdla ngakumbi kunokuba aphele kwaye yeemvakalelo zakho budlelwane kwabanye abantu. Zonke izinto ukuze ndinoloyiko kum, ingaba iminqweno yentliziyo yam.